I feel like there is a lot pressure lately to ‘do it all.’ Have a successful career, a loving relationship, solid friendships, social life and more. Have you ever wanted to spend time alone doing what makes you happy, without having to answer to anyone else?
Sometimes it’s tough if you’re a people pleaser, you don’t want to let anyone down but you don’t have the energy to commit to plans every night of the week. If you do this you’ll burn out. I find if I’m doing too much in all aspects of life, my body kindly likes to remind me that I’m not super-human and springs me with the mother of all colds. (hands up who’s had that lately!) I like alone time, I think because I have this blog as a hobby I always have something to fill my free time.
Self-care is important – more and more we need to be reminded to take some time out for ourselves. Do something that helps you relax. That could be listening to your favourite album in full with no interruptions, taking your dog for a walk or having a relaxing bath. Remember when you do any of these activities leave your phone at home (if you can) or out of sight. Don’t let outside pressures sneak in and make you feel guilty for doing something for you. Oh and another thing don’t be sneaking a look at your work emails when you’re out of the office either.
If you feel like you have made too many commitments in a week, don’t just cancel them out of sheer panic. Look at your diary, how can you spread your time more effectively to give you room to breathe? Give your friends alternative dates you can meet, this way you aren’t isolating yourself.
Be realistic. Do you need at least two nights at home a week, where you simply come home after work, make tea and relax? You might need more and that’s ok too. Remember that a more rested you is someone other people will enjoy being around. So go on, go run that bath, switch off your phone and take some time for you.